By Shula Levin, LCSW-C
By Shula Levin, LCSW-C
The weather is changing, the houses are decorating, and according to social media and Hallmark movies, we are in “The Most Wonderful Time of The Year.”
While the holiday season—from Thanksgiving to Chanukah to the New Year — can be full of excitement and good cheer, for people struggling with infertility, this season can better be described as “The Most Triggering Time of The Year.”
While navigating the journey of infertility is physically, mentally and emotionally exhausting 12 months a year, there are specific times and life events that can increase the feelings of hopelessness and frustration.
Since the holiday season is typically centered around the concept of family, children and togetherness, this focus highlights a sense of loss and isolation for those struggling with infertility.
It can act as one giant reminder of what other people have, and what those struggling so desperately want, but do not yet have. While nothing will completely prevent the difficult emotions that may arise during this time, anticipating and preparing yourself for this season can help you navigate it more easily.
Here are some thoughts to help you through this holiday season:
Most importantly, know that what you are feeling is normal and valid. There can be intense darkness throughout the fertility journey, and you are allowed to feel sad during this time.
In fact, the main message of Chanukah speaks directly to the struggle of infertility: while life can feel completely bleak and dark, when we light the menorah, that little flame reminds us to hold onto that spark of hope and light.
Seeds of Hope, a program of Jewish Community Services (JCS), recently launched three new groups, offering people in the Jewish community opportunities for meaningful conversations, while garnering support with others who are facing similar fertility experiences.
A closed Facebook group will also allow women to share experiences with others going through fertility challenges.
Shula Levin, LCSW-C, is a clinical therapist at JCS.
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