By Donna Kane, MA, CT, Jewish Community Services
By Donna Kane, MA, CT, Jewish Community Services
Loss and grief touch everyone. It is an inevitable part of being human. How people experience these emotions can be as unique and individual as each person.
How do we protect ourselves from the tremendous pain caused by the death of a loved one? It is human nature to want to avoid pain. But in grief, it is better to move toward our pain.
The expression “grief work” conveys how difficult this is to do. It is even harder to determine how to embrace your loss and grief when the holidays are upon us. How do you cope with the empty place at the table?
It is possible, with some thought and planning, to approach the holidays with a different set of expectations — ones that include the opportunity for mourners to find solace and comfort in the customs of our holidays. Even with the heavy burden of grief, it may be possible to look toward the New Year with some expectation of comfort and peace.
Finally, try to allow yourself to experience comfort and some pleasure as well. Remember that you will not “get over” the death of a loved one. The loss becomes a part of your life and a part of who you are.
Most importantly, remember that other people will want to offer support. Be open to accepting help when others reach out. We can come together in our grief and in the hope of a happier and meaningful holiday season.
Donna Kane, MA, CT, is a Grief Clinician at Jewish Community Services.
Jewish Community Services (JCS) provides programs and services for people of all ages and backgrounds, helping them achieve their goals, enhance their wellbeing, and maximize their independence.
To learn more, visit jcsbalt.org or 410-466-9200.
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